Category: Therapy
Why Your Brain Takes Shortcuts — And How We Can Learn to Choose New Ones
Why Your Brain Takes Shortcuts — And How We Can Learn to Choose New Ones We like to think that how we feel is a response to what’s happening right now. But more often than not, it isn’t. Much of the time, our emotional responses are the result of patterns the brain has learned over…
Knowing When to Get Off the Train
Knowing When to Get Off the Train There’s a Japanese proverb often shared in reflective traditions: If you realise you’re on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station — the longer you stay on, the harder it is to return. Lately, this has stayed with me. Not because it’s about trains, but because…
Re-learning How to Move With Time (Not Against It)
Re-learning How to Move With Time (Not Against It) Modern life treats time as something linear, flat, and endlessly productive. Monday follows Sunday, January follows December, and the expectation remains the same: show up, perform, repeat. But biologically, psychologically, and historically, this isn’t how humans have ever functioned. For most of human history, time was…
I Thought It Was the Truth — Until We Slowed It Down
I Thought It Was the Truth — Until We Slowed It Down A client said this to me recently, halfway through a session. “I just assumed it was true… because it’s always been there.” They weren’t talking about a memory. They weren’t talking about a fact. They were talking about a thought they’d been living…
The Rise of “Performative Thought Leadership”: Why We Feel Irritated by Pseudo-Profound Work Advice
The Rise of “Performative Thought Leadership”, Why We Feel Irritated by Pseudo-Profound Work Advice This article was inspired by a recent client conversation, shared with permission and anonymity. In a recent session, a client shared an observation about something they’d been seeing online, people in ordinary, day to day professional roles creating highly polished motivational…
When Good People Go Unseen
When Good People Go Unseen: A Reflection from a Client Who’d Had Enough A client I recently worked with came to me completely drained. They weren’t burned out from workload, they were burned out from being invisible. They described working for an organisation that never once offered praise or recognition. Every success went unnoticed, yet…
“Feeling Like an Alien”: Finding Understanding Across Different Worlds
“Feeling Like an Alien”: Finding Understanding Across Different Worlds A young person I support said something to me recently that really stayed with me. “Having autism makes you feel like an alien.” It was a simple but powerful statement, one that spoke volumes about how isolating the world can sometimes feel for those who experience…
When the Future Feels Bleak: Coaching Through Uncertainty
When the Future Feels Bleak: Coaching Through Uncertainty For generations, the future was something people could plan for. Go to school. Get a job. Climb the ladder. Buy a house. Retire. But for many young people today, that path doesn’t exist anymore. Or if it does, it’s foggy, inaccessible, or simply doesn’t feel right. The…
Fresher Pressure: How Students and Parents Can Navigate the First Month
Fresher Pressure: How Students and Parents Can Navigate the First Month Freshers Week is painted as a rite of passage, a blur of parties, instant friendships, and the beginning of “the best years of your life.” For many, though, the reality looks very different. Beneath the Instagram highlights and glossy brochures, the first few weeks…